Lisa, I don't even like my boyfriend's car! My Volvo is much more practical! I just take his kind gesture of letting me drive his car as a sign that we're really serious. I'm 25 and he's 28. I like just about everything about him, especially how he opens doors for me and makes me laugh. He and I are blissfully happy, but impressing Mama and Daddy is oh-so important, especially in the South, which is where we live. Thank you for your response; I hope you're staying warm! Yours, Betsy
One way to impress your boyfriend’s parents is by not overdoing the makeup. That presses all the wrong buttons. While you’re at it, don’t wear your shirt or top too unbuttoned or your skirt too short. They want to think their son likes a solid girl, not a fast one. Your boyfriend sounds great.
Hi! It has been a while since i last posted on your tumblr; i am a huge fan, and i follow you social means--e.g., twitter, etc. I attend Roger Williams here in Rhode Island, not to far from your alma mater. I posted a while ago asking what i should bring, clothing wise, to college, and you responded with great suggestions! Thank you! I need help with outerwear; What kinds of coat should i have? Please keep in mind i am on a college budget; however, i can spend a couple of hundred. Thanks, Chris
Hi again Lisa, I go to Loyola in Maryland (where lax bros reign) and it seems that sweat pants and leggings with sweatshirts and uggs are all anyone wears to class. I want to dress up for class without standing out, do you have any suggestions? Thanks again, Christine
Sweat pants or leggings stuffed into Uggs is not a style; it’s the anti-style way of going to class without caring about your appearance. That’s fine for some, but it’s so sloppy and boring. What’s wrong with jeans, a shirt and a cable knit sweater over it? This ensemble shows off your figure and doesn’t look like you’re trying too hard. Also, a well-fitting turtleneck tucked into jeans always looks good in the cold weather.
Hi Lisa, what would you suggest a preppy to wear to a Kanye West concert and to prom. Also, I'd like to know what you think the male equivalent to pearls is. My guess is a gold watch.
Did I ever answer you? (Sorry; it’s been a busy time. I’m writing you from Istanbul.) I don’t think you should wear the same outfit to a Kanye West concert and to prom. I imagine the concert happened already, but if not — a polo shirt (any kind) and a pair of jeans. Keep your underwear enclosed. For prom, a simple black tuxedo is best; nothing too “creative.”
Male equivalent of pearls. Good question. I’d say a good watch (doesn’t have to be gold). If it is gold, the strap should be leather.
Trench Coat Report: After scouring the city (meaning select areas of midtown) and 4 stores in Westchester I have settled on a tan trench from Tommy Hilfiger-with one caveat. Strangely the sleeves are so long that they completely cover my hands so it's off to the tailor. I had to go with Tommy because Zara had weird puffy sleeves, Uniqlo, though 100% cotton had a strange fit, Brooks though perfect was tres pricey, H&M harbors too many synthetics, LLBean is backorded in my size,etc. Such struggles
Thanks for your follow-up. I had faith in you. And, I own a great Tommy Hilfiger trench coat (actually two of them) myself.
Dear Lisa, I feel like a prep out of place. I'm a freshman at the University of La Verne, which is right outside of Los Angeles, and I'm having a hard time keeping my preppy identity with all of the beach/bohemian clothing. I'm a prep at heart but how do I keep my prep roots while in a sea of hollister? Sincerely, Rachel
I feel your pain. Los Angeles is definitely not a major preppy metropolis. But there are ways of maintaining your preppiness nonetheless. First, just because LaVerne (not a preppy name, btw) isn’t prep doesn’t mean you have to follow the crowds. You can stay proudly prep by yourself— really prep it up — and that could be one way to become known on campus. Wear cute headbands, a lot of pink & green and Lilly Pulitzer and make it your statement.
If that doesn’t work for you, create a signature look — maybe Top-Siders or brightly colored chinos and jeans, or no socks, or pearls with everything — no matter what else you are wearing. You will look confident and a little polished amidst the boho surfer dudes. To thine own prep be true.
Hope it helps!
(No problem shopping for preppy stuff in LA: Brooks Brothers, Tommy Hilfiger, Lilly Pulitzer, Kate Spade, Tory Burch, Ralph Lauren, etc. — all there awaiting you.)
What's the best way to impress my boyfriend's parents? I like this one a lot, and he has let me drive his car, so I know we're really serious.
I need way more information. Of course, the best way to impress anyone’s parents is to establish good eye contact, engage them in a conversation, and speak in full sentences. Show them you like their son without being icky about it. (And not just because he let you drive his car.) What do you like about your boyfriend (beyond his car)? How old are you? How old is he?
Where are the pictures of you or your children, dressed as ne’er do wells, non-profit administrators, and curators? I meant it when I said I wanted to see them.
Yes, I’m a giver, but please, would you decorate this page with pictures of yourselves as Prepoween wastrels?
Meanwhile, I’ve been moving, which means packing and unpacking and packing again, as I am deciding to live with less stuff and move more possessions into storage. I haven’t changed my life this dramatically in a long time, but it feels apt in my apt.. (Get it?) Also, since Exhibit B will be off to college in the fall, I’m in for a lot of changes going forward — might as well get on with it.
As you know, the paperback edition of True Prep was just released, looking even more classic in its automnal colors, and I love it! I’m talking to a lot of radio hosts — even one or two who prepared by reading some of the book — but not travelling so much. (When I had a radio show, I wouldn’t dream of not reading a guest’s book, if he or she were scheduled to talk about it. But I guess that most current hosts don’t see that as part of their jobs.) But I don’t like to complain.
If you are not far from Providence, R.I., I will be signing books at the Brown University Bookstore on November 10th at 5:30. And I will be signing books at North River Outfitters in Boston on November 21.
Part 2: Also, when will you be in Rhode island for a book signing? -Chris
Hi Chris, I have to answer Part 2 first, because… well because. I will be signing books and perhaps reading from True Prep on THURSDAY, November 10th at 5:30 pm at the Brown University Bookstore on Thayer Street. Frankly, I cannot wait! Hope to meet you there.
Now question 1: If you want an ultra-preppy winter coat, buy yourself a duffel coat with enough room to layer sweaters and fleece in it. You can find one at LL Bean I think that will fit into your budget. Otherwise, preppies wear down jackets with panache. Rhode Island gets cold and damp in the winter, so find something that’ll keep you warm during tailgating season.